HOW TO DEAL WITH "NEIGH" SAYERS
There is most definitely competitive energy that can encourage positive
personal development and growth, however what I'm addressing today is
competitive energy when it's based in the concept of "lack". In the
case with love, competitive energy can look like the person who has to
be better than everyone else so that they will be more loved. . . but
by whom? And when it sees others making a run for the gauntlet,
championing the Truth that there is more than enough love, that
everyone gets to have their Beloved, it (the Ego) is threatened. And so
it'll tell us bitter stories, remind us not to be "unrealistic" tell us
that "there are no good men out there", says "it's too late for you",
"beggars can't be choosers", and "all relationships are about hard work
and compromise" etc. etc.
HOW TO IDENTIFY COMPETITIVE ENERGY OR NAYSAYING
To shed light on whether or not you've experienced negative competitive
energy or nay saying, check in to see how you feel. Do you feel better
or worse with the comment or the thought (yes it can be your own inner
voice that is competitive)? Do you feel lighter or heavier holding the
thought? Notice whether or not the assumption is based in fear or in
love? If you feel heavy, negative, or more fearful, then you know that
you've just given credence to what isn't true.
TOP WAYS TO DEAL WITH NAYSAYING
1. "Neeeiggggghhhhhhh!" You shake your head and whinny, OK maybe not
aloud, but you can do it mentally to anyone who wants to rain on your
parade. Any silliness promises to shake the energy out of your system and put your gears back to neutral.
And by neighing to the naysayers, you are setting a boundary and
telling the universe that you're not interested anymore in such
2. Send love to the thought or persona that is weaving the pity story. Sometimes
it's just a part of us that needs to be acknowledged for a past pain or
injustice, like a child who once gets a kiss on her "boo-boo" is then
able to get back out on the playground.
3. Affirm that they are right,
"Yes you are absolutely right, there is not a single good man out there
in the world." Inanities often clap like thunder when repeated aloud.